You couldn’t get what you longed for. You had a dream and thrived after it for months and years but ,somehow, by the end you couldn’t accomplish that. You failed to live up to your dreams and expectations of yourself and others. You lost your beloved ones, your possessions, your money or your job. You lost someone or something you were most dependent on or say it something that was your most favorite.
I always wanted to become an MBBS but fate didn’t go in my favour. I opted for a completely different field or Time chose it for me. I pursued that with all my heart and got the success. And trust me, life has explained it to me later onwards that actually the former one was not for me.
Recently, I kept on running and chasing a dream that I wished to pursue for last 4 years. I kept on trying to find out the right opportunity and I got that. I tried my best, did complete preparation as per my potential or may be more than that. For around 3 months, I went through a phase of hope and despair and it really was one of the painful & agonizing phases of my life. My days and nights were spent praying and striving for that. It was like dying every night with a lost heart and fear to lose it. But every coming morning I woke up with a hope that I might get it today. I even started doubting my beliefs that what if despite of all my prayers and hard work I won’t get the success and if so happens, I might lose my trust in God. And this thought always made me flounder. Finally the day arrived, I received the most awaited call and the answer was ‘NO’, a big ‘NO’. To be very honest I wasn’t expecting it as my hopes were very high. I felt like the whole world had fallen on me. I kept the phone. Took deep breaths and to my surprise, I was neither angry, nor crying. Yes, I felt the wetness in my eyes and said Alhamdulillah (Thank God). It meant that I didn’t lose my trust in God which I feared the most. Till day, I get amused at my reaction.
I had lots of goals to fulfill during past few years of my life and I know that I couldn’t achieve most of them. So what! It doesn’t mean that I won’t ever be able to reach there and get them. This is not the end of the world.
“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.”
These are just few examples from my personal life and I know that every person outside there goes through such dilemmas in life. Some face it courageously; some lose hope and go deep down in such an agony that makes them a rusted piece. But it’s still not late. You can stand up again. There are hundreds and thousands of other opportunities waiting for you. If not today then tomorrow and if not tomorrow then the day after tomorrow.… Fate must have decided something much better for you, then why to run after something that is not meant for you or might not be as good for you as you have imagined it.
A student failing in an exam tries to kill himself just because of a silly thought that his/her future is over. A person failing to get his love jumps from a building just because there won’t be anyone else in the whole world to love him again or can fall in love with him. An unemployed person hangs himself with the ceiling as he can’t do anything for his family. What about the poor family after he dies? What about his children, who need him the most. If he is alive, he can get an opportunity by more trials. Why don’t we try???
“Try and fail, but don’t fail to try.”
Don’t go for the quick fixes rather than finding the true solutions. Stop allowing negative emotions and think positive. Look around yourself at the people who are in worse situation than yours. We often avoid accepting our failures and blame others for it. We try to minimize our mistakes and find the reasons why we had no choice but to do what we did. Each time we avoid our failings, we miss the opportunities for growth. Know you value because no creature in this world is born without a reason.
I am not trying to say that I am some super human being. I have learnt this all through the tough experiences and wanted to share it here if it can be beneficial for someone.
God has blessed us with the most beautiful gift of ‘hope’. We hope and we dream OR we dream and we hope. It goes both ways. Then we pursue our dreams with a feeling of hope deep in our hearts. We as humans are lucky to have these presents. Scientists are still unable to solve the mystery of human mind that how does it possess such feelings.
Life is another name of tests and trials. It makes us stronger. Every time you fail, remember, you have got more powers to fight the world in a better way to solve your problems. Trust me there is nothing as illuminating as ‘Hope’. What if you couldn’t get what you wanted the most! There must be a better option waiting for you but you don’t bother to try for that and miss the opportunity, blaming your luck by the end.
Pat your shoulder for even a tiny achievement. Don’t underestimate yourself. Trust me, you will feel the difference.
Stay Blessed. Cheers :)